Letting Go

Letting go is...hard. Theres no other way to put it. Especially when someone that was important to you leaves your life for one reason or another. Eventually, that person has to be let go of. Whether it is an ex, a family member who has died or a friendship that went sour. Those feelings need to be let go of.

When it comes to ex's, it can be really hard to let go of them depending on how close you were with that person but they left you or you left them for a reason. They need to be let go of regardless because if you hold on to that person then they will become a hindrance while you are looking for the person who you are meant to be with. But forgiving that person is also a huge thing. Holding on to anger is useless. You are hurting no one but yourself. Yes, I realize I need to take my own advice but the truth is, I am not ready to let go of the anger. I really am angry and I have a feeling it will be awhile before I can let go of all of that anger. I do realize it has been awhile since all that crap happened but for some reason I cant seem to let it go or get over it. I'm usually a forgiving and forgetting person but this, this is different for whatever reason. I don't know why it is different but it is and I still have issues with it. I am slowing getting over my anger and feeling betrayed but it will come and I know that it will. Every day it gets easier.

When it comes to a family member or a friend who has died the feelings of sadness need to be let go of. Yes, it is hard and you are allowed to grieve over that person but doing it for a long amount of time is not the best idea. Remembering all the good times is what you need to do. When thinking about that person, don't think about their death and their last few months or days here on this earth. Instead, think about how much you love that person and how much fun you had with them. Happiness is stronger than sadness and letting go of that sadness and replacing it with happiness is what needs to be done. I understand how this can be and I know that it can be really hard to replace sadness with happiness but I promise you that if you can gather the strength to do it life will be a ton happier. But, do not attempt forget this person in their entirety. That will only make the process harder.

When a friendship goes sour its hard not to forget the feelings of anger, frustration and loneliness that accompany that situation. Everyone has had at least one friendship go sour in their lives and when that friendship meant a lot to you its really hard to let go of and get over. When a friendship (or relationship) doesn't work out it is hard to accept at first and saying goodbye to that friend is hard because of all the fun you had with them and how much time you spent with them meant a lot to you but sometimes these relationships don't work out because that person is not what you need or isn't a good person for you to be associated with at the point in your life that you might be. When a friend betrays you its hard not to remember that but again, harboring anger towards that person doesn't do any good. It only hurts you.

Long story short, letting go is hard no matter what needs to be let go of but if you put forth the effort, you will get there and you will be so much happier when you do :)

♥